Wrestling with Faith While Leading Others

Faith Isn’t Always Pretty.

This episode brought tears to my eyes.

Because the truth is—we don’t talk enough about how hard it can be to lead others while privately wrestling with your own faith.

When the expectations are high, and everyone’s watching… where do you go to be human? What happens when you’re the one giving answers, but you have questions of your own?

In my conversation with Dr. Jenny Carter in Episode 5 of The Graced to Lead Podcast, we peeled back the layers of what it means to wrestle with your faith—not as a sign of failure, but as a sacred part of formation.

Woman covering her face, sitting in shame.

Sometimes we think our faith has to be polished and picture-ready. But real faith? It gets messy.

It includes tears. 

Tough conversations. 

And moments when silence feels louder than God’s voice.

But here’s the beauty:

God isn’t intimidated by your doubts. He welcomes them.

If you’ve ever thought, “I can’t let them see me struggle,” I’ve been there too. But the truth is, you can lead and still be in process. You can hold space for others while holding your own pain too.

Dr. Jenny said something I’ll never forget:

“Dependent faith borrows beliefs. Interdependent faith owns them.”

She gives a really clear explanation of the difference between the two that I'm sure will be something you will never forget either.

We don’t have to parrot what we’ve heard just to appear spiritually mature. God wants your real questions, your real surrender, and your real heart.

Here's what I learned:

• You are allowed to be both faithful and flawed. 

• You’re allowed to ask questions and still lead well. 

• You’re allowed to wrestle and still be used by God.

You don’t have to hide your wrestle—your story is sacred.

With grace and prayers for your success,

Belinda

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Next Steps:

1. Listen to + Download Episode 5.

2. Want to go deeper? Book a coaching session with me.

Reflection Questions:

1. What part of my faith have I kept hidden because I feared judgment?

2. Where have I been pretending to be more certain than I actually feel?

3. What’s one question I’m ready to bring to God in honesty this week?